Happy Father’s Day to all the dads missing from a child’s life! Dads do you wonder about the children missing from your life? Dads, do you care? Dads, can you step up and do more than father the children who are lost or damaged within?
Father’s Day acknowledges fatherhood. Fathers are missing in action with so many children, youth, and adolescents. Fathers are still missing from so many adult children’s lives.
Children are thinking about their fathers. Parents, guardians, caregivers think about the children. Children are saying within: “I am negative about my daddy because I know that is what you want to hear. I long to know if he can be a father to me. I long to know if there is a chance for a relationship. I long to rid myself of this empty voice. I dare not say or share. I am broken. I am damaged. I wonder:”
Why isn’t my Dad in the picture with me? Why was his face erased? What happened to the memories?
You say; “Your father is no good.”
You say; “Your dad is a deadbeat.”
You say; “Your dad better not show his face around here.”
You say; “You have no dad.”
You say; “You have full custody of me.”
You say: “My dad works all the time.”
You say; “Your dad was a mistake.”
You say; “Your dad is a criminal; a thug.”
You say; “Your dad ain’t right in the head.”
You say; “I can’t stand your dad’s family.”
“You say; “My family can’t stand the sight of him.”
You say; “Your dad is dead.”
You say; “It’s best he steers clear of us.”
You say; “You ain’t got no dad.”
You say: “I’m all the dad you need.”
You say; “You don’t need no dad.”
You say; “Your dad don’t know you exist.”
You say; ” I did the best I could by myself.”
You say; ” You dad will pull me down.”
You say; “Your dad don’t love nobody but himself.”
You say; “Your dad is a bad influence.”
You say; “I don’t want you to grown up to be like him.”
You say; “Your dad is a bum.”
You say; “Your dad is dumb.”
You say; “Your dad is stupid.”
You say; “Your dad is a loser.”
You say: Dad has no skills.”
You say; “Your dad can’t hold a job.”
You say; “Nobody won’t hire your Dad.”
You say; “Dad dropped out of school.”
You say; “Your dad don’t deserve nothing.”
You say; “You say my dad has to pay first.”
You say; “My dad is locked up..”
You say; “Your father is good for nothing.”
The child thinks; ” All I hear is you say, he this, you that. What about me? I am the one who can can’t say Daddy. You say; but what do you do?
Parents, guardians, caregiver; look at the child. Don’t just look on the outside. LOOK and the child. Do you see he’s broken? Do you see she’s damaged? You don’t have to live together. You don’t have to be best friends. This is no Utopia. LOOK AT THE CHILD? What should you do? Dads who fathers a child; take a step to do what you should do. Father’s Day is one day; being a father is all year-long.
This is about the child being broken. damaged, even bitter. Young or old; growing up without a dad has an impact. Success Is The Best Revenge. Parents, guardians, caregivers this is not all about you. What do you do?