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What Makes You Think Moms Don’t Work? Are you CRAZY?

Why ask moms if they are ready to work? I saw this question in several online ads and print ads.  This post is based on my first response.  ARE YOU CRAZY?

The word MOM is work in itself. The word MOM identifies a responsibility outlines in numerous task that last for a lifetime. From the time you are conceived ; your mom is working.. She is working to keep you healthy. She is working to increase her knowledge and skills to take the best care of you possible. She is working to not smoke during her pregnancy. She is working to halt drinking during her pregnancy. She is working to eliminate illegal drugs from her system while she is pregnant. She is working to prioritize use by enhancing her skills and abilities for motherhood. She is working as a career woman to provide the best for you. She is going to school to give you a better life. She is working to deprive herself of necessities to ensure you have.  She is working to provide transportation to enable you to have access to what is needed.  She is working to ensure you receive the necessary nutrients for a healthy childhood.  She is working to overcome any obstacles that interfere with you.  She is working for you to be successful.

Majority of mothers work 24/7 in a wholistic manner for the betterment of  you.  The mothers who  gave you away worked a strategy to give you a better life.  The mothers who made mistakes worked; lacking skills for positive result.    The word “MOM” means accountability and responsibility 24/7.     Don’t get frustrated; open your eyes.  Moms do work; salary not required.


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Happy Father’s Day! What’s Your Excuse?

Happy Father’s Day !

Does your child know what a father’s love is?

Can your child say they have a relationship with their dad?

Are you accountable as a father?

Are you a role model to your child?

Do you talk to your child?

Does your child feel as if they matter?

Some of you are great dads.

Some of you are part-time dads.

Some of you proclaim your title.

Some of you deny the role.

Some of you acknowledge your legacy.

Some of you hide from the responsibility.

Some of you accept with open arms.

Some of you reject the knowledge.

Some of you boast about fathering.

Some of you hide from the duties.

Some of you transitioned to being a real dad.

Some of you are not there.

Some of you want to be a father.

Some of you can be a father.

Alright some of you; step it up.

Being a father is more than a day; it’s a lifetime.

You can be a dad.  Maybe your father didn’t know how to be a dad; but, that doesn’t excuse you.    You think to think independently of all the great things you want to do as a dad.  Think of what you missed.  Put yourself in your child’s shoes; and imagine how they’re feeling.  How do you want your child to feel?  How do you want your child to behave?  What can you do to positively impact your child.

It is not always the quantity of time you spend with your child; but, the quality of time that is spent.

Be a Dad 24/7.    Do something.

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Where’s my DADDY? Happy Father’s Day!

Happy Father’s Day to all the dads missing from a child’s life!   Dads do you wonder about the children missing from your life?  Dads, do you care?  Dads, can you step up and do more than father the children who are lost or damaged within?

Father’s Day acknowledges fatherhood.  Fathers are missing in action with so many children, youth, and adolescents.  Fathers are still missing from so many adult children’s lives.   

Children are thinking about their fathers.  Parents, guardians,  caregivers think about the children.    Children are saying within:  “I am negative about my daddy because I know that is what you want to hear.   I long to know if he can be a father to me.   I long to know if there is a chance for a relationship.  I long to rid myself of this empty voice.     I dare not say or share.  I am broken.  I am damaged.          I wonder:”

Why isn’t my Dad in the picture with me?  Why was his face erased?  What happened to the memories?

You say; “Your father is no good.”

You say; “Your dad is a deadbeat.”

You say; “Your dad better not show his face around here.”

You say; “You have no dad.”

You say; “You have full custody of me.”

You say: “My dad works all the time.”

You say;  “Your dad was a mistake.”

You say;  “Your dad is a criminal; a thug.”

You say; “Your dad ain’t right in the head.”

You say; “I can’t stand your dad’s family.”

“You say; “My family can’t stand the sight of him.”

You say; “Your dad is dead.”

You say;  “It’s best he steers clear of us.”

You say; “You ain’t got no dad.”

You say: “I’m all the dad you need.”

You say; “You don’t need no dad.”

You say; “Your dad don’t know you exist.”

You say; ” I did the best I could by myself.”

You say; ” You dad will pull me down.”

You say; “Your dad don’t love nobody but himself.”

You say; “Your dad is a bad influence.”

You say; “I don’t want you to grown up to be like him.”

You say; “Your dad is a bum.”

You say; “Your dad is dumb.”

You say; “Your dad is stupid.”

You say;  “Your dad is a loser.”

You say: Dad has no skills.”

You say; “Your dad can’t hold a job.”

You say;  “Nobody won’t hire your Dad.”

You say;  “Dad dropped out of school.”

You say; “Your dad don’t deserve nothing.”

You say; “You say my dad has to pay first.”

You say; “My dad is locked up..”

You say; “Your father is good for nothing.”

The child thinks; ”  All I hear is you say, he this, you thatWhat about me?  I am the one who can can’t say Daddy.   You say;  but what do you do?

Parents, guardians, caregiver; look at the child.  Don’t just look on the outside.  LOOK and the child.  Do you see he’s broken?  Do you see she’s damaged?  You don’t have to live together.  You don’t have to be best friends.  This is no Utopia.  LOOK AT THE CHILD?   What should you do? Dads who fathers a child; take a step to do what you should do.  Father’s Day is one day; being a father is all year-long.

This is about the child being broken. damaged, even bitter.   Young or old; growing up without a dad has an impact.  Success Is The Best Revenge.   Parents, guardians, caregivers this is not all about you.  What do you do?

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Dads in Denial? Kids Returning To School!

Stop being a deadbeat dad!  Your excuse for not working ends. Your child is back in school.   You need to look for a job when the kids go back to school.  Your deadbeat excuses are tired.   These excuses don’t provide for your child.  Read the rest of this entry »

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Get a Grant – Change A Child’s Life

How can a grant award change a life?    How can grants change a baby’s life?  How can grants change a child’s life?    How can grants bring about change in our children’s lives.   A change alters a person’s life or circumstances in a substantial way.  How does this impact our children?  How can a grant awarded to an organization change lives of our youth of tomorrow?

Some babies are born chronically ill.   Some babies are born with special medical needs, and  special needs.  Some babies are born developmentally delayed.  Parents are in need of crises intervention.  Parents are in need of coping skills.  Parents are in need of counseling for the child.  Parents are in need of medical care assistance for the child.  Parents are in need of home health care and services for the child.  Parents are in need of special equipment for the child.  Parents are in need of money to offset these new ongoing expenses.  Parents may need anger management.  Parents may need family counseling resulting from the child’s mental, emotional, or physical well-being.  Parent may need marital therapy due to a strain in their relationship from dealing with child’s condition.   Child may be in a single parent home; which may have increased stress if there is lack of a support system.  Grants can make a change in a baby’s life.

Some children need daycare.  Parents lack the money.  City, county, and state funded childcare programs cannot accommodate all children.  Parents must meet certain criteria to qualify for the childcare.  Parents cannot meet the requirements because they are at a loss for daycare.  Lack of childcare for parents to achieve their goals of employment and/or education may increase their frustrations.  These children may be subject to excessive shouting.  They may be spanked more than necessary.  They may spend majority of their waking hours in timeout; in their crib or remaining in their room.  Grants can change the quality of childcare.  Grants can impact change in parenting techniques.

Some children attend school in fear of school violence.  There are gangs in schools.  There are cliques in schools.  There are antisocial children in school.  There are oppositional defiant children in school.  There exist hostile environments in school.  Some parents create violence in the schools.  Safe schools is a major concern in the school system.  Some schools have security.  Some schools have city police in their schools.  Some children carry unauthorized weapons to retaliate or try to protect themselves.  Grants can change these lives.

Some children are bullied at school.  These schools can be public schools, private schools, or charter schools.  Some children cringe when they encounter certain students at school.  Some children cry before coming to school.  Some children withdraw into themselves rather than deal with the bullying.  Some children accept bullying as a way of life.  Some children give up their lunch and lunch money daily.  Some children give up their seat or a favorite item to a bully.  Some children do whatever a bully demands to be left along.  Some children develop low esteem.  Some children develop anxiety.  Some children have lost their lives as a result of being bullied.  Some children have taken drastic steps to protect themselves from bullies; including using unauthorized weapons at school.   Some of these actions have harmed these “bullies.”   Bullying is a national issue in schools; and causes problems for children of all school ages.  Grants can make a change in these children’s lives.

Afterschool programs may be minimal.  The existing programs may lack funding to provide age appropriate activities for children.  Their may be a staff shortage.  The afterschoolers may bicker and quarrel among themselves due to lack of activities.  The afterschool activities may be nonexistent.  The afterschool program may be termed a holding place for children.  The afterschool program may not provide healthy snacks.  The afterschool program may not have tutors nor assistants to help with homework.  The children may not be properly supervised due to ratio of staff versus afterschoolers.  Grants can make a positive change for afterschoolers.

Some children live in fear in their neighborhoods.  Drugs run rampant.  Drug usage is everywhere.  Family members and friends use drugs.  Drug dealers reside in the neighborhood.  Drugs are sold everywhere.  Teen pregnancy may be high in their area.  Teen pregnancy may begin at an early age.  Prostitution, robbery, burglary, theft, home invasion, domestic violence, and family violence is a way of life in their neighborhoods.  The school dropout rate may be high in the neighborhood.  Increased police patrol or there may be a substation in the neighborhood to thwart crime.  Grants can change neighborhoods for children.

Grants can make a difference.  Grant awards can change these children’s lives for the better.  Grants can provide the necessary programs, services, and equipment needed to have a positive impact on their lives.  Voids and gaps exist in every aspect our life.  Proposals can be written to foundations and government grantors to provide needed services for children and their families.     Frustrated with children’s programs and services?  Don’t get angry.   Get a grant!  Change a life.

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