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Job Search Assumptions Slowing You Down?

Job search success requires thinking and preplanning.  Never forget this is a competiton.  Leave nothing to chance or you suffer the consequence of not getting the interview which leads to the job offer.  

How can you expect to find a job when:

You don’t receive job alerts

You don’t pick-up the FREE employment guides at your grocer.

You don’t read the job classified in the Sunday Paper.

You don’t read the job classifieds in the weekly paper.

You don’t search your state workforce site for employment opportunities.

You don’t tell family, friends, and others you encounter that you are searching for work.

You don’t network, network, and network.

You don’t use social media.

You don’t visit online job boards or virtual fairs.

You don’t register with career sites.

You don’t attend industry related events; conferences, associations, meet-ups.

You don’t research companies you’re interested in.

You don’t call to inquire.

You don’t brand yourself.

You don’t revise your resume.

You don’t match your resume to the position you seek.

You don’t portray yourself as an asset to a prospective employer.

You don’t prepare for a competitive job search; finding work is competitive.

Don’t get angry.  Turn your don’t into a do and increase your job search success.  Shirleyd @ SHINE cares.  Job search success can be attained.

What’s your story?

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Career Competition Got You Down?

Competition is here to stay.  We want to be at the top of our game in everything we do.     Searching for a job or starting a business requires hard work.  Is the glass half  full or half empty?

There are numerous competitors selling the same product or service; shoes, purses, makeup, perfumes, vitamin supplements, candles, and jewelry.   There a numerous affiliates. There are numerous competitors vying to fill their down lines.  Is choosing a competitive market a mistake for you?  Should your passion and ideas fall by the wayside?  Should your love of shoes, fashion, makeup, and jewelry not benefit you?  

Family, friends, peers, and others make comments and question concerning your career choice:

“You’re taking a risk.  I know someone who failed.  You’ll probably never rank in search engines. Your keywords won’t get you traffic.  Your website won’t get noticed.  You’re  offering the same thing.  You won’t have enough customers.  There is too much competition; find something else.  You won’t make any money. Your site won’t make it.  Don’t waste your time.”

Are you getting negative vibes from nonbelievers?   Is your confidence shaken?  What if you have considered all the odds?  What if you have researched it thoroughly?  Who says you can’t put all your eggs in one basket? What do you do?  Can you do it?  Can you make it work?  Can you make money among your competitors?   Do you believe you can achieve?  Why should they buy from you?  What is the value for your customers?

Research, research, research!  Plan, strategize; don’t stop. The choice is yours.  Everyone is not going to applaud your goals.  Everyone is not going to support your efforts.  Some will identify you as a failure from day one.

Don’t give up.  Don’t get depressed.  If you believe you can achieve; bring your uniqueness, creativity, and  passion to the table.  Make it happen.  Success is the best revenge.  http://www.askshirleyd.com  All your eggs are in one basket.  How are you going to place them?

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No Job! No Money! You Just Broke!

Job search funds wearing away; got no luck and less money.  Searching online.  Searching in person.   What’s a broke person suppose to do?  Plan and cut cost. 

You can save money during your job search; “cha-ching.
You can cut cost; reduce travel expenses.
Save on wasted hours; plan your time wisely.
Make job search savings a priority while looking?

Attend virtual career fairs.
Access employers online.
Complete online applications
Submit resumes online

Some job search opportunities are offline
Some resumes are hand delivered.
Interviews require your presence.
Plan accordingly.

If you have to pound the pavement; wear comfortable shoes.
This could save in medical bills.
Yes, there are so many beautiful shoes; and there are so many bruised and swollen feet.
Yes, the shoes are cute; but your feet made a horrid impression.
Maybe it was the polish; maybe it was the toe handing out.
You can put your flats in your purse or briefcase for the interview.
Everyone is not impressed with over the top shoes.

If you ride the bus or train to collect applications; plan your route.
You may be use transfers to save money.
Know the bus schedules; you may save time between stops.

If you use the taxi; have a voice in route to your destination.
The taxi doesn’t have to take the longest or the scenic route; cha-ching.
Get dropped off at a central location within walking distance or short bus rides to retrieve applications, drop off resumes, and attend interviews within proximity at scheduled times.  
The taxi waiting between stops may not be cost-effective with the meter running.

Ensure your vehicle is operable.
Ensure your vehicle has enough gas.
Ensure tires are satisfactory.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Ensure fluids are up to par.
Ensure no warning lights are on.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Ensure you are within the speed limit.
You need to get to your destinations in a timely fashion.
You need to reach your destination.

Getting tickets decreases your funding; and cost valuable time in your job search process.
Getting a tire blowout may cost you money; and a job.
Warning signs on your vehicle may  cause you to lose out on employment opportunities.
Expired registration and inspections can empty your pockets.

Spend your job search time wisely.
It cost more to drive back and forth.
It cost more to catch taxi after taxi after taxi.
It cost more to transfer opportunities. 
Check into the express transportation that operates in some areas.
Identify a safe place to read, review, prepare for the next interview.
Visit the library, museums, and other public places of interest  during scheduled same day  interviews.
You can accomplish a lot online.
Utilize the online experience as much as possible during your job search.
You can save time and money.
Job applications can be completed and submitted online.
Some can be downloaded and printed online for in person submission.
Resumes can be submitted directly to employer sites.
Print resumes can be mailed.
Resume on CD; including video can be delivered; mailed also. .
Interviews may be through chat, telephone, in person; based on employer’s request.

Dressing for success during a job search can be expensive.
Find a Dress For Success program in your area.
Visit the local Goodwill or Salvation Army.
The United Way has excellent nonprofit resources to assist.
The Society of St Vincent de Paul has sources and resources.
Churches may provide assistance.
Locate other thrift shops that may have affordable and appropriate attire for your job interest.

There are community-based organizations that assist with bus tokens.
Some provide vouchers for an effective job search.
Your state human services agency may provide assistance.

Success is worker smarter and having a successful job search while cutting expenses.  Don’t get frustrated.  Don’t get  mad.  Success is the best revenge.  I am the author of this article; which is also posted on my website.  Cutting cost during job search articles will be updated regularly.

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Happy Father’s Day! What’s Your Excuse?

Happy Father’s Day !

Does your child know what a father’s love is?

Can your child say they have a relationship with their dad?

Are you accountable as a father?

Are you a role model to your child?

Do you talk to your child?

Does your child feel as if they matter?

Some of you are great dads.

Some of you are part-time dads.

Some of you proclaim your title.

Some of you deny the role.

Some of you acknowledge your legacy.

Some of you hide from the responsibility.

Some of you accept with open arms.

Some of you reject the knowledge.

Some of you boast about fathering.

Some of you hide from the duties.

Some of you transitioned to being a real dad.

Some of you are not there.

Some of you want to be a father.

Some of you can be a father.

Alright some of you; step it up.

Being a father is more than a day; it’s a lifetime.

You can be a dad.  Maybe your father didn’t know how to be a dad; but, that doesn’t excuse you.    You think to think independently of all the great things you want to do as a dad.  Think of what you missed.  Put yourself in your child’s shoes; and imagine how they’re feeling.  How do you want your child to feel?  How do you want your child to behave?  What can you do to positively impact your child.

It is not always the quantity of time you spend with your child; but, the quality of time that is spent.

Be a Dad 24/7.    Do something.

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Where’s my DADDY? Happy Father’s Day!

Happy Father’s Day to all the dads missing from a child’s life!   Dads do you wonder about the children missing from your life?  Dads, do you care?  Dads, can you step up and do more than father the children who are lost or damaged within?

Father’s Day acknowledges fatherhood.  Fathers are missing in action with so many children, youth, and adolescents.  Fathers are still missing from so many adult children’s lives.   

Children are thinking about their fathers.  Parents, guardians,  caregivers think about the children.    Children are saying within:  “I am negative about my daddy because I know that is what you want to hear.   I long to know if he can be a father to me.   I long to know if there is a chance for a relationship.  I long to rid myself of this empty voice.     I dare not say or share.  I am broken.  I am damaged.          I wonder:”

Why isn’t my Dad in the picture with me?  Why was his face erased?  What happened to the memories?

You say; “Your father is no good.”

You say; “Your dad is a deadbeat.”

You say; “Your dad better not show his face around here.”

You say; “You have no dad.”

You say; “You have full custody of me.”

You say: “My dad works all the time.”

You say;  “Your dad was a mistake.”

You say;  “Your dad is a criminal; a thug.”

You say; “Your dad ain’t right in the head.”

You say; “I can’t stand your dad’s family.”

“You say; “My family can’t stand the sight of him.”

You say; “Your dad is dead.”

You say;  “It’s best he steers clear of us.”

You say; “You ain’t got no dad.”

You say: “I’m all the dad you need.”

You say; “You don’t need no dad.”

You say; “Your dad don’t know you exist.”

You say; ” I did the best I could by myself.”

You say; ” You dad will pull me down.”

You say; “Your dad don’t love nobody but himself.”

You say; “Your dad is a bad influence.”

You say; “I don’t want you to grown up to be like him.”

You say; “Your dad is a bum.”

You say; “Your dad is dumb.”

You say; “Your dad is stupid.”

You say;  “Your dad is a loser.”

You say: Dad has no skills.”

You say; “Your dad can’t hold a job.”

You say;  “Nobody won’t hire your Dad.”

You say;  “Dad dropped out of school.”

You say; “Your dad don’t deserve nothing.”

You say; “You say my dad has to pay first.”

You say; “My dad is locked up..”

You say; “Your father is good for nothing.”

The child thinks; ”  All I hear is you say, he this, you thatWhat about me?  I am the one who can can’t say Daddy.   You say;  but what do you do?

Parents, guardians, caregiver; look at the child.  Don’t just look on the outside.  LOOK and the child.  Do you see he’s broken?  Do you see she’s damaged?  You don’t have to live together.  You don’t have to be best friends.  This is no Utopia.  LOOK AT THE CHILD?   What should you do? Dads who fathers a child; take a step to do what you should do.  Father’s Day is one day; being a father is all year-long.

This is about the child being broken. damaged, even bitter.   Young or old; growing up without a dad has an impact.  Success Is The Best Revenge.   Parents, guardians, caregivers this is not all about you.  What do you do?

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A Little Bit Of Narcissism! Oh yeah!

Have you done a reality check?  What has Twitter done for you lately?  What have your followers done for you lately?  Are you still  addicted to the social networks.  Are you in denial?  Are you moving forward or caught up?

You wake  and before your first cup of coffee; you need to check your tweets or you’ve got to tweet.  Before you shower;  you’ve got to check your Facebook.  Before you can help the children with their homework?  Dinner is late because of your social networking?  What comes first?   You or social networking.  Does social media make you the person you are?   Is your voice in the keypad?  Are you lost among all these friends(hundreds, thousands, more)?  Are you full of  yourself?  Can you converse without tweeting or relating to tweets?  Can you make a friend or does Facebook give you the skills you need to establish relationships.

Are goals on the sideline because you need to tweet or make an online friend?  What about career progression?  Are you a traditional or nontraditional student who is procrastinating; because you  need to post or follow so many friends.  You need to monitor so you can tweet as much as possible.  

What about family?     Hey, what about communicating in the home?  Are you so focused on tweeting and online friends that you’re neglecting  your children?  What about  your employer?  Is your job in jeopardy?  Are you caught up?  Will the real you please stand up?   Life may be passing you by.   You can benefit from social networking; but, life extends past that.

Narcissistic?   Prove you’re not.    Success is revenge.

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Happy Holidays! Money For Xmas Anyone?

Happy Holidays To All!  I wish you good cheer!  Happy Holidays to all the holiday shoppers!  How do you spell Christmas?   

M-O-N-E-Y

Happy Holidays to the family who saved to buy the Xbox, Xbox connect, Wii, or Play station.   Good cheer to breathing a sigh of relief.   No stress to begin the New Year 2012.  No debt collectors calling you nonstop.  No tears shed because you didn’t budget for Xmas.  No drastic steps to pawn your cherished possessions.  No urgency to sell your food stamps.  No mental and physical exhaustion from last-minute strategies to provide presidents for Christmas.  No desperate measures to acquire Xmas gifts through illegal activities to generate money for gifts.  Good cheer to you.

Happy Holidays to the family who stayed together.  The lack of money for the holidays did not put a wedge in the relationship.  The lack of money did not create dissension in the home.  The lack of money did not lead to vicious arguments.  The lack of money did not lead to physical abuse.   The lack of money did not lead to verbal abuse.  The lack of money did not cause you to deter from your priorities.

Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year!   Your budget saved Xmas!   Just imagine what you can accomplish.

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