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What Makes You Think Moms Don’t Work? Are you CRAZY?

Why ask moms if they are ready to work? I saw this question in several online ads and print ads.  This post is based on my first response.  ARE YOU CRAZY?

The word MOM is work in itself. The word MOM identifies a responsibility outlines in numerous task that last for a lifetime. From the time you are conceived ; your mom is working.. She is working to keep you healthy. She is working to increase her knowledge and skills to take the best care of you possible. She is working to not smoke during her pregnancy. She is working to halt drinking during her pregnancy. She is working to eliminate illegal drugs from her system while she is pregnant. She is working to prioritize use by enhancing her skills and abilities for motherhood. She is working as a career woman to provide the best for you. She is going to school to give you a better life. She is working to deprive herself of necessities to ensure you have.  She is working to provide transportation to enable you to have access to what is needed.  She is working to ensure you receive the necessary nutrients for a healthy childhood.  She is working to overcome any obstacles that interfere with you.  She is working for you to be successful.

Majority of mothers work 24/7 in a wholistic manner for the betterment of  you.  The mothers who  gave you away worked a strategy to give you a better life.  The mothers who made mistakes worked; lacking skills for positive result.    The word “MOM” means accountability and responsibility 24/7.     Don’t get frustrated; open your eyes.  Moms do work; salary not required.

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Happy Father’s Day! What’s Your Excuse?

Happy Father’s Day !

Does your child know what a father’s love is?

Can your child say they have a relationship with their dad?

Are you accountable as a father?

Are you a role model to your child?

Do you talk to your child?

Does your child feel as if they matter?

Some of you are great dads.

Some of you are part-time dads.

Some of you proclaim your title.

Some of you deny the role.

Some of you acknowledge your legacy.

Some of you hide from the responsibility.

Some of you accept with open arms.

Some of you reject the knowledge.

Some of you boast about fathering.

Some of you hide from the duties.

Some of you transitioned to being a real dad.

Some of you are not there.

Some of you want to be a father.

Some of you can be a father.

Alright some of you; step it up.

Being a father is more than a day; it’s a lifetime.

You can be a dad.  Maybe your father didn’t know how to be a dad; but, that doesn’t excuse you.    You think to think independently of all the great things you want to do as a dad.  Think of what you missed.  Put yourself in your child’s shoes; and imagine how they’re feeling.  How do you want your child to feel?  How do you want your child to behave?  What can you do to positively impact your child.

It is not always the quantity of time you spend with your child; but, the quality of time that is spent.

Be a Dad 24/7.    Do something.

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Where’s my DADDY? Happy Father’s Day!

Happy Father’s Day to all the dads missing from a child’s life!   Dads do you wonder about the children missing from your life?  Dads, do you care?  Dads, can you step up and do more than father the children who are lost or damaged within?

Father’s Day acknowledges fatherhood.  Fathers are missing in action with so many children, youth, and adolescents.  Fathers are still missing from so many adult children’s lives.   

Children are thinking about their fathers.  Parents, guardians,  caregivers think about the children.    Children are saying within:  “I am negative about my daddy because I know that is what you want to hear.   I long to know if he can be a father to me.   I long to know if there is a chance for a relationship.  I long to rid myself of this empty voice.     I dare not say or share.  I am broken.  I am damaged.          I wonder:”

Why isn’t my Dad in the picture with me?  Why was his face erased?  What happened to the memories?

You say; “Your father is no good.”

You say; “Your dad is a deadbeat.”

You say; “Your dad better not show his face around here.”

You say; “You have no dad.”

You say; “You have full custody of me.”

You say: “My dad works all the time.”

You say;  “Your dad was a mistake.”

You say;  “Your dad is a criminal; a thug.”

You say; “Your dad ain’t right in the head.”

You say; “I can’t stand your dad’s family.”

“You say; “My family can’t stand the sight of him.”

You say; “Your dad is dead.”

You say;  “It’s best he steers clear of us.”

You say; “You ain’t got no dad.”

You say: “I’m all the dad you need.”

You say; “You don’t need no dad.”

You say; “Your dad don’t know you exist.”

You say; ” I did the best I could by myself.”

You say; ” You dad will pull me down.”

You say; “Your dad don’t love nobody but himself.”

You say; “Your dad is a bad influence.”

You say; “I don’t want you to grown up to be like him.”

You say; “Your dad is a bum.”

You say; “Your dad is dumb.”

You say; “Your dad is stupid.”

You say;  “Your dad is a loser.”

You say: Dad has no skills.”

You say; “Your dad can’t hold a job.”

You say;  “Nobody won’t hire your Dad.”

You say;  “Dad dropped out of school.”

You say; “Your dad don’t deserve nothing.”

You say; “You say my dad has to pay first.”

You say; “My dad is locked up..”

You say; “Your father is good for nothing.”

The child thinks; ”  All I hear is you say, he this, you thatWhat about me?  I am the one who can can’t say Daddy.   You say;  but what do you do?

Parents, guardians, caregiver; look at the child.  Don’t just look on the outside.  LOOK and the child.  Do you see he’s broken?  Do you see she’s damaged?  You don’t have to live together.  You don’t have to be best friends.  This is no Utopia.  LOOK AT THE CHILD?   What should you do? Dads who fathers a child; take a step to do what you should do.  Father’s Day is one day; being a father is all year-long.

This is about the child being broken. damaged, even bitter.   Young or old; growing up without a dad has an impact.  Success Is The Best Revenge.   Parents, guardians, caregivers this is not all about you.  What do you do?

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A Little Bit Of Narcissism! Oh yeah!

Have you done a reality check?  What has Twitter done for you lately?  What have your followers done for you lately?  Are you still  addicted to the social networks.  Are you in denial?  Are you moving forward or caught up?

You wake  and before your first cup of coffee; you need to check your tweets or you’ve got to tweet.  Before you shower;  you’ve got to check your Facebook.  Before you can help the children with their homework?  Dinner is late because of your social networking?  What comes first?   You or social networking.  Does social media make you the person you are?   Is your voice in the keypad?  Are you lost among all these friends(hundreds, thousands, more)?  Are you full of  yourself?  Can you converse without tweeting or relating to tweets?  Can you make a friend or does Facebook give you the skills you need to establish relationships.

Are goals on the sideline because you need to tweet or make an online friend?  What about career progression?  Are you a traditional or nontraditional student who is procrastinating; because you  need to post or follow so many friends.  You need to monitor so you can tweet as much as possible.  

What about family?     Hey, what about communicating in the home?  Are you so focused on tweeting and online friends that you’re neglecting  your children?  What about  your employer?  Is your job in jeopardy?  Are you caught up?  Will the real you please stand up?   Life may be passing you by.   You can benefit from social networking; but, life extends past that.

Narcissistic?   Prove you’re not.    Success is revenge.

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Happy Holidays! Money For Xmas Anyone?

Happy Holidays To All!  I wish you good cheer!  Happy Holidays to all the holiday shoppers!  How do you spell Christmas?   

M-O-N-E-Y

Happy Holidays to the family who saved to buy the Xbox, Xbox connect, Wii, or Play station.   Good cheer to breathing a sigh of relief.   No stress to begin the New Year 2012.  No debt collectors calling you nonstop.  No tears shed because you didn’t budget for Xmas.  No drastic steps to pawn your cherished possessions.  No urgency to sell your food stamps.  No mental and physical exhaustion from last-minute strategies to provide presidents for Christmas.  No desperate measures to acquire Xmas gifts through illegal activities to generate money for gifts.  Good cheer to you.

Happy Holidays to the family who stayed together.  The lack of money for the holidays did not put a wedge in the relationship.  The lack of money did not create dissension in the home.  The lack of money did not lead to vicious arguments.  The lack of money did not lead to physical abuse.   The lack of money did not lead to verbal abuse.  The lack of money did not cause you to deter from your priorities.

Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year!   Your budget saved Xmas!   Just imagine what you can accomplish.

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Potty Training Needs Grant Funded Programs To Prevent Child Abuse!

According to the local news today;  so many children are killed nationwide during potty training years.   It was horrifying.  Our babies are being killed.  Parents are cracking during the potty training stage; and killing their babies.  What about a baby’s dirty diaper justifies a child’s pain and suffering?  There are numerous parenting programs that are supposed to be educating parents and reducing child abuse, and child abandonment.  Child Protective Services is targeting families to save our children.   How can a dirty diaper end a child’s life?   How can a soiled diaper or undergarment trigger hurting?  Read the rest of this entry »

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Are You A Relationship Bully?

What makes your relationship great?

  • Do you give your mate the silent treatment if things don’t go your way?
  • Do you glare at your mate?  Is that the signal to back off or else?
  • Do you raise your voice as a sign of what may come?
  • Do you stand up to get your point across?
  • Do you stand in your mate’s face shouting?
  • Do you throw objects in your mate’s direction to get your point across?
  • Do you make threats?
  • Do you expect intimacy when you verbally insult her?
  • Do you expect intimacy when you mistreat her?
  • Are you satisfied because your behaviors get you the result you want?

 If your actions are raging, abusing, threatening, dehumanizing  that intimidate, offend, and inflict harm creating hostile conditions YOU ARE BULLY.

 While you are checking your children and others for their behaviors; CHECK YOURSELF.  Do a self assessment.  Get out of  volatile situation.  Get the help you need.   Success Is The Best Revenge!  http://www.awesomepapersawesomeresearch.info         I write because I care.

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