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What Makes You Think Moms Don’t Work? Are you CRAZY?

Why ask moms if they are ready to work? I saw this question in several online ads and print ads.  This post is based on my first response.  ARE YOU CRAZY?

The word MOM is work in itself. The word MOM identifies a responsibility outlines in numerous task that last for a lifetime. From the time you are conceived ; your mom is working.. She is working to keep you healthy. She is working to increase her knowledge and skills to take the best care of you possible. She is working to not smoke during her pregnancy. She is working to halt drinking during her pregnancy. She is working to eliminate illegal drugs from her system while she is pregnant. She is working to prioritize use by enhancing her skills and abilities for motherhood. She is working as a career woman to provide the best for you. She is going to school to give you a better life. She is working to deprive herself of necessities to ensure you have.  She is working to provide transportation to enable you to have access to what is needed.  She is working to ensure you receive the necessary nutrients for a healthy childhood.  She is working to overcome any obstacles that interfere with you.  She is working for you to be successful.

Majority of mothers work 24/7 in a wholistic manner for the betterment of  you.  The mothers who  gave you away worked a strategy to give you a better life.  The mothers who made mistakes worked; lacking skills for positive result.    The word “MOM” means accountability and responsibility 24/7.     Don’t get frustrated; open your eyes.  Moms do work; salary not required.

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Where’s my DADDY? Happy Father’s Day!

Happy Father’s Day to all the dads missing from a child’s life!   Dads do you wonder about the children missing from your life?  Dads, do you care?  Dads, can you step up and do more than father the children who are lost or damaged within?

Father’s Day acknowledges fatherhood.  Fathers are missing in action with so many children, youth, and adolescents.  Fathers are still missing from so many adult children’s lives.   

Children are thinking about their fathers.  Parents, guardians,  caregivers think about the children.    Children are saying within:  “I am negative about my daddy because I know that is what you want to hear.   I long to know if he can be a father to me.   I long to know if there is a chance for a relationship.  I long to rid myself of this empty voice.     I dare not say or share.  I am broken.  I am damaged.          I wonder:”

Why isn’t my Dad in the picture with me?  Why was his face erased?  What happened to the memories?

You say; “Your father is no good.”

You say; “Your dad is a deadbeat.”

You say; “Your dad better not show his face around here.”

You say; “You have no dad.”

You say; “You have full custody of me.”

You say: “My dad works all the time.”

You say;  “Your dad was a mistake.”

You say;  “Your dad is a criminal; a thug.”

You say; “Your dad ain’t right in the head.”

You say; “I can’t stand your dad’s family.”

“You say; “My family can’t stand the sight of him.”

You say; “Your dad is dead.”

You say;  “It’s best he steers clear of us.”

You say; “You ain’t got no dad.”

You say: “I’m all the dad you need.”

You say; “You don’t need no dad.”

You say; “Your dad don’t know you exist.”

You say; ” I did the best I could by myself.”

You say; ” You dad will pull me down.”

You say; “Your dad don’t love nobody but himself.”

You say; “Your dad is a bad influence.”

You say; “I don’t want you to grown up to be like him.”

You say; “Your dad is a bum.”

You say; “Your dad is dumb.”

You say; “Your dad is stupid.”

You say;  “Your dad is a loser.”

You say: Dad has no skills.”

You say; “Your dad can’t hold a job.”

You say;  “Nobody won’t hire your Dad.”

You say;  “Dad dropped out of school.”

You say; “Your dad don’t deserve nothing.”

You say; “You say my dad has to pay first.”

You say; “My dad is locked up..”

You say; “Your father is good for nothing.”

The child thinks; ”  All I hear is you say, he this, you thatWhat about me?  I am the one who can can’t say Daddy.   You say;  but what do you do?

Parents, guardians, caregiver; look at the child.  Don’t just look on the outside.  LOOK and the child.  Do you see he’s broken?  Do you see she’s damaged?  You don’t have to live together.  You don’t have to be best friends.  This is no Utopia.  LOOK AT THE CHILD?   What should you do? Dads who fathers a child; take a step to do what you should do.  Father’s Day is one day; being a father is all year-long.

This is about the child being broken. damaged, even bitter.   Young or old; growing up without a dad has an impact.  Success Is The Best Revenge.   Parents, guardians, caregivers this is not all about you.  What do you do?

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Happy Holidays! Money For Xmas Anyone?

Happy Holidays To All!  I wish you good cheer!  Happy Holidays to all the holiday shoppers!  How do you spell Christmas?   

M-O-N-E-Y

Happy Holidays to the family who saved to buy the Xbox, Xbox connect, Wii, or Play station.   Good cheer to breathing a sigh of relief.   No stress to begin the New Year 2012.  No debt collectors calling you nonstop.  No tears shed because you didn’t budget for Xmas.  No drastic steps to pawn your cherished possessions.  No urgency to sell your food stamps.  No mental and physical exhaustion from last-minute strategies to provide presidents for Christmas.  No desperate measures to acquire Xmas gifts through illegal activities to generate money for gifts.  Good cheer to you.

Happy Holidays to the family who stayed together.  The lack of money for the holidays did not put a wedge in the relationship.  The lack of money did not create dissension in the home.  The lack of money did not lead to vicious arguments.  The lack of money did not lead to physical abuse.   The lack of money did not lead to verbal abuse.  The lack of money did not cause you to deter from your priorities.

Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year!   Your budget saved Xmas!   Just imagine what you can accomplish.

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Child Protective Services On Your Back! Moms, dads 10 pointers!

1.  Your child is not the only one in the system.  All children are supposed to be special.  All children need help.  Every child is a priority.

2.  You are not the only dad being investigated.  Fathers everywhere have subjected children to physical, sexual, and psychological abuse.  The children have to be protected.  You may need help.  You may not need to be removed from the child’s life.

3.  You are not the only mom being investigated.  There are moms who do not make their children a priority.  There are moms everywhere who subject their children to abuse and neglect.  There are moms who abandon their children.  The child has a right to a healthy, wholesome life.

4.  Your home is not the only household that is substandard.  Dirty dishes, mold, fleas, trash, and infestations run rampant in some households.  Some parents; including guardians are lackadaisical.  Someone has to step up for the sake of the children.

5.  You are not the only parent working two jobs.  You can work 2 plus jobs; but, you have to ensure the well-being of your child.  You are the parent, guardian, or caregiver.  It is your responsibility to ensure your children are safe and secure; to include shelter and meals.   Children cannot be left home alone unsupervised unless their age meets requirements.  Until that child is emancipated or reaches adult age; the responsibility lies with a parent, guardian, or caregiver.

6.  You are not the only one on TANF.   TANF is not the reason you are  being investigated.  Your receiving benefits did not make you a target.

7.  You are not the only one who needs to complete a program successfully to regain custody of your children.  Personality disorders, substance abuse, family violence, abuse, neglect, and abandonment are issues that need to be addressed to determine if your home is a suitable environment for these children.,

8. Your being a parent does not mean that you are an effective parent.  Parenting classes are for your benefit if you are sincere are regaining or retaining custody and care of your children.

9.  You are not the only one whose children are in foster homes.  Some children are in shelters.  These children need a safe haven.

10.   You are not the only one who want who wants their children returned to them.  You are not the only one following necessary steps to regain or retain custody of your children.   You are not the only one procrastinating.  Your case is a priority just like everyone else.  You have to express interest and involvement. 

Moms, dads, guardians, caregivers wakeup!  Do the right thing.   Our children are being hurt.  Our children are being killed.  Innocent lives are being destroyed.  The best revenge is education, prevention, and intervention to save our children.  There are too many sources and resources to make a difference.  Success is saving our children. http://www.awesomepapersawesomeresearch.info

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A Dad Drowned His Kids Today in TX!

How can the word “Dad” be used in this context?  Too bad!  So sad!  He was their “Dad”.  This news is shocking!  NOTHING justifies this action. Read the rest of this entry »

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Is your relationship a NONO!

No Does Not Always Mean Never.  He said NO.  She said NO.  Oh, you’re together?  What’s going on?  Read the rest of this entry »

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Dads in Denial? Kids Returning To School!

Stop being a deadbeat dad!  Your excuse for not working ends. Your child is back in school.   You need to look for a job when the kids go back to school.  Your deadbeat excuses are tired.   These excuses don’t provide for your child.  Read the rest of this entry »

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